What I learned from an 8-year old.
Throughout my life there was a man that told me to “Never stop learning” and to be a “Life Learner” not just in school and education, but a Life Learner. Because life learners don’t ever stop learning and expanding their minds, and maintaining an open mind on things of various topics. This man also taught her that she can learn from anyone and anybody no matter the age no matter the circumstance. He taught her that she can learn anything from anyone even if it’s a simple I don’t want to be like that. However, in the mist of being a life learner was also the stress of “considering the source”, because you have to be careful what you allow yourself to be feed with and I am not talking about food. You have to know that not everyone or everything spoken has to go through a filter of, What can this teach me? Do they match the advice they are giving out? Are they being honest and open about their experience that backs why they believe what they believe? Are they open to changing, or even seeing a different perspective outside of their own? I could go on and on about that but I’ll save that topic for another blog cause that is something that is needed to be discussed. But for today I want to tell you on this day of March 15, 2025 what I’ve learned from an amazing 8- year old. Yes you read that right I’ve been learning and tutored from an 8-year old. Although I am still learning from him I will tell you at least 8 things that I’ve learned from the mini life tutor.
Patience: Whew this is a hard one I will not even lie to you because my previous teacher use to tell me about having patience but it was just always something I’ve struggled with. But I can say my tutor has taught me how to be more patient. That also comes from me helping him to be patient in waiting on the things that he desires and wants. Although I am not all the way there this is an area that can honestly say a lot of grown has taken place.
Anger: I saw and experienced a lot in my child-hood as well as early adult years and well just in life in general. There are moments that make me smile, moments that can make me cry, and moments that the pain was so deep it turned into anger. So often the major roots of anger that I noticed with not just me but in general is it comes from a wound that was left untreated may it been from someone else or self inflicted. What ever it may be the root of it is usually mostly unresolved pain of some sort. Anger is a heavy emotion that one can carry and I did not want my tutor take on that emotion or see that emotion. Not to say that he won’t experience it but there is a healthy way to deal with your anger as well as process your anger.
Mistakes are okay: We all have made mistakes, and sometimes those mistakes hold us back and keep us in bondage. This little 8 year old doesn’t like making mistakes but he showed me how to love yourself through them. I am not perfect and won’t ever portray to be, I have made mistakes that made me completely hate myself and hard to forgive myself. But, this 8 year old showed me that even though he doesn’t like making mistakes that they are bound to happen and he shows himself love and goofiness at the same time, not ever a thought of lack of love. And watching that has helped me along my journey back to Megan.
Learn Again. As a child I use to just sit and research looking up various things from psychology, forensics, law, medical, science, and just all the things. I loved learning in general not just at school. Well, when my Wise Teacher passed away in 2016 my love for learning left me so or I thought. On my grief journey it were so many things that I thought had left from me as I began piecing together ME again and seeing what still remained. My tutor brought this back to me as I watch him learn in his unique ways. Watching him figure things out and asking for help has made me dive back into learning. I even finally made the decision to truly start my language journey being I’ve always wanted to learn various languages. He brought that back for me watching him learn in his own way.
Baking: May sound crazy but this was something that I use to do for my Teacher and I truly enjoyed it. I loved the smiles of when people would try my baking and their comments and feedback on it. I would see how it would lift their spirits sometimes having a sweet treat made with love and care that got them through their day or season they were going through. My tutor didn’t like sweets until some years after he was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes. I hung up baking for sometime after losing my Teacher, but would bake sometimes. Well, for the past few months I started back baking which has been such a joy to me again and then him demanding me to make cupcakes for his birthday has put me back into my love for baking again and wanting to spread that love.
Boundaries: In case you’re wondering can an 8-year old really teach you to have boundaries and self respect again? YES, THEY SURE CAN. He brought me back to knowing and having boundaries something that had been put by the waist side for quite some time. He has a heart of gold but he will try and show you his heart but if not received he will go on his way. He has always been a you’re mean to me he will ignore it or he will just abort ship with you all together and not deal with you. I love that about him and allowed that to help me begin to set boundaries with people. That will be something that I will talk about further in another blog post because it’s important when you get on your healing journey to get and set HEALTHY BOUNDARIES, but I know it can be hard especially if you haven’t ever been surrounded by healthy environments as well as people.
Being Bold,Creative, and a whole Alien again: Some may not agree but the father in the life of their child they tend to shape their identity. When I lost mine I can not lie I lost myself. I found myself all out lost and trying to piece together who Megan were again and what died and what remained. I had stopped writing for awhile and everything because it was painful to do that along with baking and being creative like I were. My tutor, watching him being himself no matter who is around and not being afraid to be bold has been one of the biggest things that he’s taught me. I am a very goofy person I love to laugh, many don’t know that but I do. I can be goofy and seeing him in his goofiest moments has brought that back out in me, as well as bringing back the Alien that I suppressed for so long. Watching him just be unique and being him reminds me so much of how my teacher use to allow and water that alien in me (which is why he gave me that nickname). I am a creative person and love being creative especially with writing. One area I had lost was being BOLD my teacher use to talk about how he loved how bold I were but I thought I had lost that too. I am stepping back into boldness and being me, although he’s a lot more comfortable on camera than me he’s been helping me become bold and hit record, and not care what any one may say, think, or feel.
Live Life: One of the biggest things that he’s taught me is to live life and each moment in that moment. If you have a vision of and for your life Why aren’t you living it? Stop with all the excuses and begin to live life. Thats what my 8-year old tutor does with the fullest. He doesn’t care what anyone thinks he is going to live life to the absolute fullest, no matter what one may thinks. He’s def taught me that being that I understand depression and I’ve been depressed before. You don’t have to stay in the dark, you can start moving towards better no matter where you are no matter what you may have done. You deserve to live every day that God gives you.
I just wanted to take the time and tell you about my 8-year old tutor on his Birthday today and what he’s been teaching me. These are some of the major ones but he’s taught me so much more but I wanted to sum up the best 8 ones in honor of his 8th birthday. I truly hope that these help you in some way or another on your journey if you are on a healing journey or just want to make a change in your life. As I said in the beginning if you have an open mind you can learn something from anyone and anything no matter the age. I am learning from my son I am not looking at the title of the fact I’m his mother and that he’s 8. Yes, I am his mother but as a life learner and as someone who is open-minded to things I am teachable, and can learn from an 8 year old who is standing here right now wondering when I’m going to make these cupcakes (lol). Thank you for taking the time to read this on my little tutor’s birthday today. Comment and wish him a happy birthday and let me know which one of these 8 lessons helped you today. Talk to you in the comments and the next one.
Meg.A♥️
My little Tutor enjoying his day at school yesterday before his birthday and Spring Break💖
