It’s Time to Start Loving Yourself Again!
So you’ve done IT again, whatever IT is for you. Every time you do IT you slowly begin to hate yourself for continuing to allow IT, to go on and on. The hate just continues to grow more and more deep inside of you. You ask forgiveness, you know that God forgives you, but there’s one person that hasn’t quite forgiven you yet. YOURSELF! Now we are going to talk about whatever the IT maybe for you because it’s different for everyone, but still the result can be the same no matter how big it may be or feel.
When I say IT I am not speaking of sex although that maybe a mistake to you of being intimate with the wrong person. IT can be that you made a mistake being in a relationship with someone you got a nudge that they are not meant for you. You went above and beyond for a friend that wasn’t really a friend in their heart towards you. Maybe you were betrayed, maybe you were the one who betrayed someone and you regret you ever did. Maybe you’ve gotten into trouble for someone and took the blame for them. Maybe you were acting out from grief and had to eventually get down to your lowest and put on your glasses to see everything clearly. (This one I know about first hand.) Maybe you’ve been portraying to be okay but you’re really not okay. I could go on and on but it’s truly a different IT for everyone. The point I am trying to make is that once you’ve come out of it and you’re ready to get and begin moving differently, in order to fully live you have got to forgive yourself and break free from anyone and anything that still sees you as IT. As well as anything that reminds you of IT.
Sometimes people get and wonder why they still aren’t fully happy it’s because more than likely they haven’t fully forgiven themselves, and by not doing so you end up holding yourself back from living your life. I understand maybe it’s a mistake that you feel that you held yourself to a different standard, That’s fine but you’ve got to forgive yourself. Trust me I know it’s hard but the only way to fully feel happiness and step into a new season is by forgiving yourself and loving yourself again. Let go of that person because if you’re truly trying to change for the better then leave that version of you alone. Anyone that still sees you as such then sit down let them know what direction your going in and if it’s not for them then let them go with the old you. Because you deserve to start a new and be the best version of yourself and heal and not live under the shadow of what you’ve done or how you use to be. It can be family, friends, coworkers, anyone that keeps you in a state of hate towards yourself. Let it and them GO! The goal is to get back to loving you and forgiving yourself and get back to making you a priority. Now I want you to grab you a journal/notebook, pen, and write through these questions and be completely honest with yourself while answering these questions.
At this very moment can you genuinely say that you love yourself? If not write about why you do not?
Why does what happen hinder you from forgiving yourself?
Are you still doing the very thing that makes you hate yourself more after you do it? Why do you keep doing it? (Be honest with yourself, true healing comes from being open and honest with yourself)
Is there anyone around you that still looks at you like IT (the mistake)? Why are they still looking at you the same? Have you accepted that you may have to let them go with the old you?
Do you take accountability for yourself in the situation?
What will it take for you to get and to love yourself again? Start with writing what you still love about yourself?
Write on how you’d begin to love yourself again and what that will look like for you as well as your future? It’s different for everyone, but there is something at least a few things that are the foundation of who you are that you love about yourself. Write that and refer to that blueprint every time, you can put them on a sticky note and put them in places that remind you to forgive yourself, as well as love yourself.
As always Thank You for reading and I hope this helps someone who needs to forgive and fall back in love with themselves, even after a fall. Share with someone who needs to see this. Be Blessed and Thanks again♥️
